Words by Nicky


I’m coaching a lot of people at the moment who really are struggling with the negative thoughts in their head…or even more so the negative actions of those around them.

If this is you…

My two biggest requests are.

1) stop the negative self talk, I mentioned in a previous article how the average person has 50,000 thoughts…seriously, make your thoughts count!

Make them worthwhile.

2) stop allowing how other people talk, behave or treat you have such an impact on your happiness.

At the end of the day the facts are, you;
CAN control your own feelings
CAN control how you react to situations and more importantly you,
CAN control (yes there are some exceptions) how people treat you.

By the last one I mean in the simplest form, walk away, don’t listen, don’t argue don’t buy into their negativity. Stand up for yourself, be assertive, strong and be willing to learn the lesson.

I’m sure everyone has heard the cliche ‘people will only treat you the way let them you’…easier said than done when it is your boss, staff, people you have to see everyday, family, your loved ones or people who you stay in bad relationships with…

My response is, start each day with a positive thought a smile and an attitude that you;
CAN control your own behaviour
CAN control your responses, and,
OWN your actions.

Once you feel more in charge of your own circle of influence (your feelings, responses and your own behaviour and reactions to situations) you feel more empowered, happier and less stressed!

Ask me for more information. It is not easy, but small consistent changes each day is what it takes, you have to work at it.