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Don’t put down, bring up.

You know one of my favourite sayings is ‘if you can not help someone, at least don’t hurt them’ (Dalai Lama).

Well I love the below picture and quote too.

If you believe in helping others, bringing them up and supporting them to be the best version of themselves then here are a few tips and gentle reminders below.

Some gentle reminders.

Don’t push people away, or put them down down, don’t stomp on others dreams because you don’t believe you could do what someone else can.
Be kind ♡
Be generous ♡
Be loving ♡
Be gentle ♡
Believe in others ♡
Everyone has their flaws…yes even you and I, people don’t need constant criticism or for their weaknesses to be pointed out.
It’s really exhasting trying to please others so lower your expectations of those around you and trust that they are doing their absolute best with the resources they have.

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Your ‘life pictures’.

What do your pictures look like-

What do your ‘life pictures’ look like?

What do you want your ‘life pictures’ to look like?

Life is full of moments, memories and experiences, how do you capture these?

Some times a moment is so perfect to me I want to take a snap shot of life at the point and time. Sometimes though, it is not what I see, or what myself or someone else is doing, it is simply a smell that evokes a memory, a sound that caresses my soul and a feeling that melts my heart. How do we capture such ‘life pictures’?

I often wonder how people use these ‘life pictures’ – I know for me personally, as everyone, we have hard times and we have good times, we sometimes even have perfect moments we sometimes want to pinch ourselves to see if we are actually living in that moment.

I use these moments to sit back and think about what I have achieved in life, what I have overcome, how my ‘life pictures’ make me who I am, and ultimately, how I can use this to help others. I think this is the most rewarding thing about being a personal development coach. I stand loud and proud with my authenticity and actually say ‘hey, I know what you are saying, and feeling, as I have personally been there, got the t.shirt even, and I got through it and I would be honored to help you too!

People take solace in familiarity and similarity, people like to know that you ‘get’ what they are going through, you can relate to how they are feeling and you possibly have the same desires and dreams as they do (even if it is not at the same time).

Sometimes people just need someone to hear them, not always solve their problems or give them the answers… many just need to feel comforted, have someone to empathise with and really just care about what they are going through!

I can and want to be this person for you, when times are tough, when times are good, when times are confusing, challenging or you are seeking that next challenge. I will show you how to change your mindset, your thinking, and your attitude to support you in dealing with whatever is in front of you. I can and will show you how to ALWAYS find a positive in every single negative situation… yes, even those icky ones!

Personal development changes are going to be sustainable in your life if you work with me.

DESIGN YOUR OWN ‘LIFE PICTURES’ NOW.

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Share your tough times!

You all know I LOVE to talk about ‘setting goals’, ‘planning’ , ‘making adjustments’ and ‘thinking about the change you want to bring about’…but let’s get real…were too busy living day to day just to;

*get the bills paid

*keep the kids happy, and occupied

*get the work done on the house

*stay employed, or

*look for new work.

Guess what! Life gets in the way…

It’s ok to share the hard times and frustration too…people typically take notice of others actions by thinking how we’d like to ‘not’ do things…but it’s not always that simple…and we find ourselves making excuses for not ‘getting ahead’. 

Some like to paint a happy little stream on social media, thinking they will be scorned if they say anything other…this is the not case (if it is…you need more positive people in your life supporting and encouraging you). That…is simple! 

My suggestion is to share the hard times, frustrating times and quite frankly the crap times, help others, and tell them how you could have done things better! Then learn from it… As they will too!

Minor adjustments count too!

Don’t forget, we are all in this together! 

Nicky@pplifecoaching.com

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Mindset

I’m coaching a lot of people at the moment who really are struggling with the negative thoughts in their head…or even more so the negative actions of those around them.

If this is you…

My two biggest requests are.

1) stop the negative self talk, I mentioned in a previous article how the average person has 50,000 thoughts…seriously, make your thoughts count!

Make them worthwhile.

2) stop allowing how other people talk, behave or treat you have such an impact on your happiness.

At the end of the day the facts are, you;
CAN control your own feelings
CAN control how you react to situations and more importantly you,
CAN control (yes there are some exceptions) how people treat you.

By the last one I mean in the simplest form, walk away, don’t listen, don’t argue don’t buy into their negativity. Stand up for yourself, be assertive, strong and be willing to learn the lesson.

I’m sure everyone has heard the cliche ‘people will only treat you the way let them you’…easier said than done when it is your boss, staff, people you have to see everyday, family, your loved ones or people who you stay in bad relationships with…

My response is, start each day with a positive thought a smile and an attitude that you;
CAN control your own behaviour
CAN control your responses, and,
OWN your actions.

Once you feel more in charge of your own circle of influence (your feelings, responses and your own behaviour and reactions to situations) you feel more empowered, happier and less stressed!

Ask me for more information. It is not easy, but small consistent changes each day is what it takes, you have to work at it.

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Authenticity

A little note on authenticity to fellow business owners.

I believe in being authentic, I believe in doing what I say I am going to do, I take pride in being genuine honest, hardworking person, I wish to have a business grow organically with authentic people who have the same values. This is how I want to be remembered.

As a coach, a mentor, and a business owner, I will always have my client’s expectations, needs, desires and goals at the forefront of my mind.

I am fortunate enough to understand the concept of having a successful business and know hands down, that without my clients, my loyal followers, friends and past clients, my business would not be growing as it is.

I believe that being authentic is not just ‘acting the part’ during business hours, I believe it is everything, all of your interactions, how you talk, how you listen, how you support, motivate and encourage other business owners, especially ones that are starting out – being careful not to forget we all started at the bottom at some time.

In today’s time –  everyone is connected, everyone uses social media, whether it be facebook, pinterest, twitter what ever, we use it in public, at work, people are constantly observing you.

It is likely that if you are in the public eye – from time to time, you might come under scrutiny from your followers/fans/clients. Listen to what they have to say, take this feedback on board and use it as an opportunity to revisit where your business is at – where your customer service is at, are their needs being met, are you ‘hitting the mark’ or have your lost focus and it is being observed by those around you. Take this time to revisit your goals and values. If the feedback is not so positive, then it is time to make some adjustments – ask these people providing feedback how they might like it to change, ask them their ideas on how they would like it to be. You are there for your clients, therefore, you need to service them correctly or they will leave.

 

Here is an example:
Over the past few years of doing business with a company and always feeling uneasy about their lack of professionalism and behavior,  I recently observed their behaviour for one last time before choosing to cut ties with them. Some of the behaviour included talking ill about their specific customers, in earshot of me (the public/ their customer)…  this is a massive NO NO! Of course, sometimes we are stressed or frustrated, but you should never, ever make it clear to your client or customer or other customers for that matter – your reputation is at stake!

How to avoid blowing up:
When you feel pushed to your limit, pause, take a deep breath, and thank them. Yes. Thank them for bringing X or Y to your attention. You, MUST learn from your customers. But don’t, gossip on Facebook, or talk ill about them behind their back. You may think it won’t get back to them… errr but your ‘friends’ may have friends that know them… or you might accidentally not have a private profile like you think you do!

(Note: remember that there is law against defamation of character too if you are ‘blowing up’ a scenario).

I am pretty sure, I’m not the only one who wants to do business with professional people…am I wrong?

Be authentic in your dealings, remember your clients do come first (they may not always be right) but they are your customers, your income, and your biggest advocates positively or negatively!

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